Confession time; the title of this post was a bit of a white lie…….sorry. But please bear with me……
First thing to get out of the way is that this post is also not about the Go-Giver which is an amazing book by Bob Burg and John David Mann, if you haven’t already read it then do!
This post was inspired by an email I received last week from Richard Tubb which asked the question of “What does it take to be a successful IT business owner”. Something we hear all the time is how people want to become successful, the car, the house etc. So folks go off and they go and get a new job or start a business of their own so that they can become “successful”. But I can honestly say that most haven’t got a clue what it looks like to be successful!
The reason for this is that so few people take the time to sit down and spend sometime with themselves, alone, and begin to understand what successful looks like to them. I personally believe that Richard Branson is a successful businessman, he has achieved some fantastic things and even been able buy his own island….I mean what an achievement! But that isn’t what success looks like to me.
Success to me looks like this:
- Spend quality time with my family without worrying about work
- Be able to buy the things that I need without having to count the pennies to hard
- Enjoy the life I have
- Enjoy the people I choose to spend my life with
Looks a little simple right? You know what, I could sit here wanting a big boat or a fancy car but I don’t need that to be able to prove to myself or others to prove I’m a success. I just want to be happy. That’s not to say that will work for everyone but that is what I consider to be a success for me having sat down and worked out what is important to me.
If you haven’t done this already then I would highly recommend doing it. If you’re not sure where to start then a great book to read would be Relax Focus Succeed by Karl Palachuk. In this he demonstrates some methods to spend time working on yourself.
So think about it; do you know what success looks like to you? Is your idea of what success looks like really what you believe or just someone elses idea?